Relationships take lots of effort, love, and care. Whether you’ve been with your partner for a few months or many years, there is always room for improvement. There are a number of reasons why your relationship may not be as strong as it could be. If you want to improve the connection between you and your partner, read these tips for a happier, healthier and more and intimate relationship.
1. Take a small break
If you or your partner tend to shut down during arguments, take a break and come back to the conversation later when you both are calmer. The more emotional you are, the lower your intelligence is. Your emotions can make your thoughts all jumbled up and cause you to say hurtful things, so avoid more damage by taking a break.
2. Stop fighting for power and control
If one of you or either of you fight over who has more power or more control in the relationship, it’s not going to end well. The other person will feel like his or her opinions, values, thoughts, and feelings don’t matter. Set aside your pride and listen to each other instead. Make the other person feel cared for. What is more important, being right or having an amazing relationship? Release your need to be right and replace it with compassion and kindness.
3. Stop criticising, start complimenting
Praise and positive words go a long way while constant complaining continues to put a dent in your relationship. Find traits in your partner that you love and compliment him or her regularly. Regularly show your appreciation for your significant other, and shower him or her with affection and gratitude throughout the day. Doing little things to show you care makes a big difference. Even sending a cute text message lets your partner know you are thinking about them.
4. Spend more time together
It’s a no-brainer that more quality time equals a deeper, closer relationship. Make time to see each other and do fun activities that both of you love to do. Not only will you learn more about each other, but you’ll also have more fun with each other, making the relationship more enjoyable. If finding time for yourselves is a challenge, organise a weekly of fortnightly date night. Schedule it in your diary like you would an appointment, until it becomes a habit.
5. Stop interrupting
When you’re having a heated discussion with your partner, it can be easy to interrupt him or her to get your point across. Let go of wanting to defend yourself and stop interrupting. Interrupting you partner does not do either of you any good, it will only make the conversation even more heated. One way to reduce interruptions is to use a timer. Set it for 10-30 minutes, and let the other person talk for that amount of time. When the timer goes off, it’ll be your turn. Make sure to listen when your significant other is speaking!
If you truly love your partner, taking steps to improve your relationship won’t feel like hard work. Nurturing your relationship will only make it more enjoyable and satisfying emotionally, mentally, and even physically.