If you feel like you are stuck in a rut or going around in circles, there are a number of ways a coach can help. Maybe you need to let go of the emotional baggage you are carrying around with you from events you have experienced in your past. Or perhaps you simply want to approach each day with more energy and focus; jumping out of bed instead of dragging yourself out of bed every morning. Whatever your personal and family situation is; here are 6 ways a coach will help you succeed:
1. Motivation and Inspiration
You already know you want to succeed. A coach will harness the passion and drive that is within you and channel it into one or more focus areas. Your coach will not only provide you with inspiration and motivation every coaching session, they will also be there for you whenever you need them in between sessions. You will leave your coaching sessions feeling determined to succeed and well equipped to overcome any obstacles you encounter.
2. Goal Setting
You may need some assistance clarifying your goals, or perhaps you have well defined goals but they seem so big and unattainable that you don’t know how you can possibly achieve them. Maybe you do know what you need to do in order to achieve your goals, but procrastination or fear is holding you back.
If you are always busy and bogged down in the daily grind, a coach will help you step back, reassess your life, discover what you love doing and help you do more of it. Whatever aspect of your life you are looking to improve, a coach will help you take the appropriate steps to make your dreams a reality.
3. Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
We all have habits that trap us in our comfort zone and prevent us from achieving our full potential. These habits are not in our conscious mind; however they determine what we think we are and are not capable of doing. As long as you let these habits rule you, you’ll be stuck in a rut.
The fear of failure is one of the main reasons we don’t step outside our comfort zone. Usually, the fear associated with anticipating doing something is much greater than the fear experienced when we actually do it.
Think of a time you did something for the first time. Yes, it was scary, but it was also exciting. And when you achieved it, it felt sensational! Even if you ‘failed’ at whatever you attempted, you still learned something from the experience.
When we do something outside our comfort zone several times, it gradually becomes more comfortable. When we make a habit of being uncomfortable, we are constantly learning and growing, which expands our comfort zone. Do something new and different on a weekly basis and you will have all manner of new skills, capabilities and life experiences.
Have you ever joined a gym and been absolutely committed to going for the first month, a couple of months later you went occasionally and a few months after that, you stopped going all together? The average amount of time it takes to achieve a noticeable difference in body shape is about 3 months. This is also about the time most people stop going.
If you had a personal trainer who made you accountable for attending your gym sessions, you would more than likely show up. Success coaching is similar to personal training, in that you are held accountable to your goals. Whether it’s in the gym, on the sporting field, or in life, a coach is a critical element of your success.
If you have ever had a goal, a dream or a burning desire to achieve something that started out well, until you came across some obstacles and it all got too hard and you gave up, you will benefit from the accountability a coach provides. When you commit to getting a coach, you are making a commitment to yourself to never give up.
5. Stop Your Story Telling
We are amazing story tellers. The stories we subconsciously tell ourselves have us so convinced that they are true. We are really good at convincing others too. Do you know if your stories are helping you or holding you back?
Sometimes it’s hard to know which stories are supporting you and which ones are detrimental to your success. Your coach can help you see why you need to let go of certain stories. They will also push your buttons and pull you up on your BS.
When you catch yourself telling stories, it’s time for a little truthful conversation with yourself (or your coach). Is it really true you need to get some more experience before you start a business? Do you really need to wait until the kids start school before you start looking after your health? Do you really need to wait for the right time to purchase an investment property? The best time to do any of these things was 10 years ago. The second best time is now.
6. Understand Your Beliefs
Your thoughts and feelings stem from your beliefs, which you form at a very young age. For example, think about your beliefs towards money. Sayings such as, ‘’it’s hard to make ends meet’’, ‘’money doesn’t grow on trees’’ or ‘’I can’t afford it’’ are ingrained in our minds from childhood by our parents. You also have similar belief systems around every other aspect of your life, such as health, relationships and work.
Understanding your negative beliefs and taking positive steps to change them enables you to remove your blockages. If you are not aware of what your beliefs are, they may be holding you back from achieving your highest potential.
Examining your inner self, understanding where your thoughts and feelings come from and linking these thoughts and feelings to your behaviours can be a challenging process. However, discovering your true self and living your life in accordance with your highest values is a joyful experience. A coach will help you have a deeper understanding of who you are, where you want to be and most importantly, why.