You’d be hard-pressed to find a successful person who has never been told they can’t do it, they aren’t good enough or they should quit their dream before.
Michael Jordon got cut from his school basketball team.
Oprah was fired from her job as a television reporter and told she was unfit for TV.
Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper editor because he lacked imagination and had no good ideas.
Thomas Edison was told he was too stupid to learn anything by his teacher.
Steven Spielberg was rejected from the University of Southern California School of Theatre, Film and Television three times.
The Beatles were turned down by a record company, who said “We don’t like their sound, and guitar music is on the way out.”
Elvis was told “You ain’t goin’ nowhere, son. You ought to go back to drivin’ a truck.”
Can you imagine if each of these superstars listen to the naysayers and didn’t continue to reach for the stars, despite what other people thought of them?
One of Arnold Schwarzenegger’s 6 rules for success in life is “Don’t listen to the naysayers”. Arnie won Mr Universe at age 20, gained worldwide fame as a Hollywood actor and then became the Governor of California, so he certainly knows what he’s talking about.
Opinions are like colds – they can be very contagious! Someone sneezes on you and, before you know it you’ve caught their cold, sneezed on someone else and passed it on. That is their opinion – don’t make it yours!
People often make the mistake of asking their friends and family for their opinion on something they have never done before. While your friends and family mean well, they are not your best source of information (unless they have successfully done what you want to do!). Unfortunately, this means they will often say something they have picked up from someone else that they probably know very little about.
Do you have someone in your life who constantly wants to bring you down? I mean, whatever new ideas you have, they will tell you why it’s a bad idea. Whatever you set out to achieve, you can be sure they will tell you why you can’t or shouldn’t do it. They’ll come up with a whole host of reasons why it won’t work out. The economy’s bad, the weather’s too cold, the dog might eat your homework… Whatever their negative opinion is, it is probably based on one of 3 reasons:
- They are jealous of you and secretly wish they had the courage to do what you are doing.
- They don’t understand why you would want to do what you want to do.
- They want to keep you at their level of thinking (consciously or subconsciously).
My advice is to only listen to the opinions of people who have successfully done what you want to do. Surround yourself with people who lift you up, inspire you and bring out the best in you. Seek out people who support you and encourage you. For example, if you want to start a business, listen to successful business owners – not employees!
If you want to have a large property portfolio, get advice from people who own lots of property. Don’t assume your financial advisor or accountant has all the knowledge and experience you need. Ask them how many properties they own and if their answer is one or none, they may not be practicing what they preach.
You can’t control other people’s opinions, however, you can control your own. When someone gives you an unsupportive, negative opinion, what you do with it is completely up to you. You can catch it like a cold, or you can shake it off like water off a duck’s back. It’s up to you!
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